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Whatever is in your heart will eventually come out\u2026especially when you are under stress and\/or feel \u201csqueezed.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>It is very important in your marriage and\/or other significant relationships that you realize that however you feel and what you say does not come out unless IT is ALREADY there.<\/p>\n<p>It is quite natural to default to the old standard, \u201cWell you bring it out of me\u2026!\u201d But the real question is: \u201cWhy is it there in the first place?\u201d We are all experts on monitoring our partner\u2019s behaviors, but how often do we really stop and monitor what is really in our own heart.<\/p>\n<p>This week\u2019s challenge is designed for you to <em>guard your heart<\/em>. You will be challenged to stop for about 60 seconds, feel, identify and call out what is in your heart.<\/p>\n<p>Your challenge is:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Each day this week if you become bothered about something regarding your spouse\/significant other\/friend, before you speak: stop (for about 60 seconds) and ask yourself what you are feeling.<\/li>\n<li>Give that feeling a <em>specific<\/em> name (i.e. anger, left-out, embarrassed, unappreciated, ugly, unloveable, inadequate, old, stupid, lonely, abandoned, scared, out-of-control, betrayed, picked-on, jealous, disrespected, insecure, etc.)<\/li>\n<li>Now before you say what you would have typically said, instead say, \u201cI feel <em>name of your feeling<\/em>. Yes, you make yourself vulnerable, but say it out-loud anyway.<\/li>\n<li>If you are doing this challenge with your partner, if they say this to you. Your respond by ONLY saying, \u201cThank you so much for sharing that with me.\u201d AND do not say anything else no matter how much you want to.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>This exercise will be particularly challenging for men as we have difficulty with really monitoring our hearts\u2026and even more difficulty doing it quickly. The typical man will say, \u201cI am angry or I am frustrated\u201d and that is it. But if you really want the best relationship possible, you have to go deeper and ask, \u201cWhy do I feel angry?\u201d (Use the list of emotions above) This will reveal the true answer. I feel angry because&#8230;I feel unappreciated\u2026or I feel disrespected\u2026or I feel inadequate, etc.<\/p>\n<p>Lastly, please note if you are doing this and your spouse\/significant other is not, why you say, \u201cI feel <em>your specific emotion\u2019s name<\/em>,\u201d instead of your typical comeback or response, you could get a negative response. 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